Monday, Feb 23, 2026
12 - 1 pm CT
From Insight to Presence: A Somatic, Experiential Approach for Helping Clients Who Know Their Patterns but Can’t Stay Present
Every relationship therapist faces this moment—when work has stalled, become constrained, or activation becomes too overwhelming for the relationship to hold.
There’s another layer: Your clients have plenty of insight. They can talk through their relational patterns with clarity, but it doesn’t move the needle towards a more secure relationship.
When you try to go deeper and access the attachment dynamics in real time, partners become flooded, stuck, or unable to stay engaged.
Instead, it introduces an experiential, trauma-informed approach that supports clients in staying present within the relationship as attachment patterns emerge.
The outcome is a felt sense of relational work, one that allows connection, attunement, and capacity to emerge without forcing insight or resolution.
This workshop offers a way forward that doesn’t require more analyzing, strategizing, or conceptual framing.
After the Workshop, You’ll Walk Away With:
Skills to assess and name attachment patterns in real time without immediately fixing, problem-solving, or regulating them away.
An embodied understanding of attachment strategies through simple dyadic exercises.
Increased clinical capacity to stay with attachment dynamics relationally, allowing patterns to be seen and worked with as lived experience rather than abstract concepts.
A clarity- and awareness-based approach to attachment work, prioritizing compassionate witnessing over immediate change.
Greater support and relief in couples/relational work, knowing attachment does not have to be fully carried or resolved within the session itself.
A Different Way Into Attachment Work
What shifts when you are working directly with somatic presence and attachment patterns as they are happening?
When you apply an embodied, body-based approach for making space for attachment needs—without defaulting to problem-solving or fixing—the work first feels different for you as the therapist.
Sessions may become less about “holding everything together” and more about supporting couples and partners in developing their own capacity to stay engaged when attachment needs come online.
Then, you’ll notice a shift in how activation unfolds in the room. Clients may be better able to stay present through moments that previously led to flooding or shutdown. Sessions can feel less constrained by the need to manage or resolve dynamics immediately.
Meet Your Facilitator: Bojun Hu, PhD
Dr. Hu brings a long-standing commitment to somatic and experiential practice to her clinical work and teaching.
Her approach integrates decades of personal practice and training in yoga, sensorimotor psychotherapy, Hakomi-informed work, somatic experiencing–influenced approaches, and movement-based disciplines. She has presented regularly on somatic and experiential methods at the American Group Psychotherapy Association since the early 2010s.
Through a background in acting and Meisner repetition, Bojun co-developed relational repetition as a therapeutic practice, adapting experiential techniques to support the exploration of attachment patterns, agency, and affect in relationships. She teaches this work with a deep respect for lived experience, having witnessed its transformative impact both personally and clinically.
This Workshop Is Ideal for Therapists Who:
Work with attachment dynamics and want more somatic, relational support for complex, high-activation couples work.
Recognize that insight alone isn’t sufficient. Attachment patterns can overwhelm the couple system despite cognitive awareness.
Seek experiential, real-time approaches that support presence, regulation, and sustained engagement in couples therapy.
Remain open to self-reflection, including exploring how their own attachment patterns shape their clinical stance and interventions.
This Workshop May Not Be the Best Fit for Therapists Who:
Primarily seek cognitive or insight-based teaching without personal or experiential engagement.
Want to build their skill set through step-by-step techniques, protocols, or manualized training that can be applied without relational involvement.
Prefer not to participate in experiential or embodied learning, including dyadic exercises.
Attachment Patterns Don’t Need to Be “Fixed” to Shift
They need to be experienced, named, and held in relationship.
This workshop decenters managing, interpreting, or containing attachment dynamics on your own and instead introduces a somatic, trauma-informed, experiential approach that supports couples in staying engaged when activation arises.
Rather than adding more content or technique, the work builds relational capacity, naturally easing the pressure on the therapist while expanding what couples can hold together, creating conditions for meaningful movement toward their relational goals.
FAQ’s about this workshop
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Yes. You’ll receive the replay after the workshop and have access for two weeks after the workshop. Due to the experiential nature of the workshop, we highly recommend you attend live for maximum benefit.
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Rather than stepping into a rigid training, you’ll be invited into an experiential lab. Discomfort, absence, and activation are normalized and welcomed from the outset, with an explicit understanding that there is no “right” or “wrong” way to participate. The atmosphere is intentionally low-stakes, emphasizing play, curiosity, and exploration. The workshop uses simple structures that are easy to enter or step back from, allowing you to engage at your own pace.
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This workshop isn’t about remediation; it’s about self-care and alignment. When we acknowledge our own attachment patterns and work with them rather than against them, sessions become smoother and less taxing. Join us to reset, reconnect, and experience something directly rather than absorb more information.
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Yes. While this workshop is geared towards couples therapists where the relational patterns show up live in sessions, individual therapists will benefit from attending. This workshop consists of experiential co-regulation work and is applicable to individual attachment patterns that show up in 1:1 sessions.
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During the workshop, you can trust you’ll feel supported, curious, and at ease, with a sense that this work is low-stakes, exploratory, and even playful. Rather than trying to perform or “do it right,” the invitation is to simply notice what happens.
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Yes, as time allows. There will be space for a brief Q&A where participants can submit questions. Facilitators cannot provide personalized guidance in this setting but can offer general guidance and further resources to explore.
About Heights Couples Therapy
This workshop is hosted by Heights Couples Therapy, a specialty group practice in Houston, Texas, supporting individuals, partners, and families navigating intense lives as they build and sustain relationships capable of weathering life’s storms.
We proudly maintain an anti-racist practice that is LGBTQ+-affirming, poly-friendly, and kink-knowledgeable. We believe everyone deserves loving, fulfilling relationships in any configuration or expression that honors their authentic selves.
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