Registration Deadline
April 1, 2026
Anchoring The Heart
A Somatic, Relational Group for Staying Present When It Matters Most
For Partnered Individuals Tired of Mental Gymnastics To Maintain Connection and Ready for an Embodied Approach To Love
Weekly on Wednesdays, 5:30-7 pm, In-person, April 8th through June 10
Knowing Your Attachment Style Isn’t Enough
Attachment styles have become well-known in mainstream culture. You’ve probably already taken a quiz or two, read Wired For Love, or seen the latest ad to “heal your attachment wounds in 21 days.”
But knowing your pattern isn’t the same as being able to stay present when it shows up.
It’s not your fault. When our attachment patterns are activated, either due to small slights or larger betrayals, our logical brain goes offline. Everything you read, learned, and watched on social media to connect better with your partner is gone.
Then, your body takes over. Emotions erupt or disappear into numbness. Connecting with—or getting space from—your partner feels more urgent than the rush on a Black Friday sale.
In these moments, what you do matters most in your relationship.
Except…you don’t know what that is. Holding space for this kind of activation can’t be learned in a book. It has to befelt, witnessed, and practiced over and over, in gentle repetition, in relationship with others.
This group was built for people like you: insightful adults who deeply love their partner but are tired of the mental gymnastics required to feel secure.
Why Small Moments Become High-Stakes
When partners engage in the same painful attachment cycles, it can slowly erode the connection. One day, you wake up, and what once felt like a loving, playful relationship shifts into a space of coldness, conflict, or unspoken resentment.
Over time, your relationship becomes the most fragile when presence matters the most.
It’s not because you don’t love your partner. Your body simply doesn’t yet have the capacity to stay present when you’re feeling agitated, overwhelmed, or shut down.
Anchoring the Heart is designed to interrupt this pattern by building your capacity for real-time struggles, not by “fixing” you or your relationship.
Is This Group for You?
You might be a good fit if:
You have some understanding of attachment, but still feel overtaken by emotions in vulnerable moments.
You want to stay present during conflict, not explode, shut down, or overanalyze it afterward.
Your body reacts before your mind can even catch up to why you’re upset.
You want to feel steadier, calmer, and more anchored as your relationship deepens, not more unsure.
You’re open to somatic, experiential, relational work in a small, supportive group.
It’s okay for you to feel nervous about opening up to a group, especially if you’re used to thinking, analyzing, and staying three steps ahead to feel safe with others.
No prior experience with somatic work is needed, only a willingness to notice and stay curious about what’s happening for you in the moment.
What This Group Is
Intentionally structured
A closed, confidential group with consistent members
Experiential, somatic, and relational
A space to explore patterns, not pursue insight
What This Group Is Not
A drop-in support group
A skills class or lecture
Crisis intervention
A purely cognitive or insight-only approach
A space to vent about your partner(s)
How This Work Feels Different
Emotions as Signals
Emotions aren’t problems to fix. They’re signals tied to attachment, often pointing to needs for safety, closeness, space, or reassurance.
Experience Attachment in Real Time
You’ll notice how attachment patterns arise quickly, even in simple interactions, making them more concrete and observable.
Notice & Express Needs
You’ll clarify what you tend to need in relationships and how those needs show up emotionally and in your body.
Release the Urge for Analysis
Through guided relational exercises and group reflection, you’ll spend most of the hour in direct experience rather than overthinking.
How Anchoring the Heart Helps Shift Your Relationship
Some members notice a pull toward closeness, reassurance, or intensity in relationships. Others tend toward distance, self-reliance, or withdrawal. Many experience both.
Rather than separating or “correcting” these patterns, the group offers a shared space to recognize, tolerate, and work with how attachment naturally shows up.
From here, you can develop the capacity to stay anchored in yourself while in relationship, especially when attachment is activated.
With gentle practice, over time, you may notice:
Less urgency to fix, withdraw, escalate, or self-abandon
Greater ability to stay grounded during closeness or conflict
More confidence in expressing needs and boundaries
Steadiness in yourself and your relationship, even under stress
Growing ability to attune to what you truly need when connected
What To Expect Each Week
Sharing is always optional. You are never asked to go faster or deeper than feels supportive. Pacing, consent, and relational safety are central to the group structure.
Each session may include:
Grounding and orientation
Relational exercises (often in pairs)
Group reflection, shared noticing, and curiosity about the process
Integration and closing
Meet the Facilitator: Bojun Hu, PhD
Bojun Hu, PhD, is a somatic therapist and seasoned group facilitator whose background spans personal practice, attachment theory, trauma-informed therapy, and a wide range of somatic and experiential practices, all oriented toward lived experience rather than abstraction.
During her decades of inquiry, Bojun uncovered a fundamental truth:
Your capacity to feel connected, safe, and authentic in relationships directly shapes the quality of your life.
This group represents the culmination of her work—bringing together clinical experience, embodied practice, and a deep commitment to helping people live more fully and honestly in relationships.
Because the greatest highs and deepest challenges of life are often with the people we love the most.
When you choose to do relational work, you’re saying “yes” to shifts that will ripple throughout your relationship—and your entire life.
Group Logistics: Spring Session
Registration Deadline: April 1st
Dates: April 8–June 10 (10 weekly sessions)
Day & Time: Wednesdays, 5:30–7:00 pm
Location: In person at Heights Couples Therapy
Investment: $800 for the entire 10-week series.
Pay in full or two payments of $400 (Due April 8 and May 13)
Insurance is not accepted.
Group Size: Maximum of 7 members per group
Format: Closed group of consistent members
Attendance Expectations: Since this is a closed, consistent group, the fee holds your place for all 10 sessions, even if you're unable to attend one or more meetings.
How to Get Started
Complete the group intake form.
Schedule a 50-min pre-group 1:1 meeting with Bojun. ($210)
Determine if the group is a good fit for your goals.
FAQ’s about this workshop
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This session starts on April 8, 2026, and runs for 10 weeks on Wednesday evenings (5:30-7pm CT). You will need to complete a TIME pre-group 1:1 50-min meeting with Bojun (billed at $210) by April 1, or sooner, to determine if the group is the right fit for you.
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For many people, meaningful relational change happens not through insight or silent study, but through safe, repeated experiences of staying engaged with others when attachment is activated. Couples therapy may be one area to do this work, but that isn’t the only place. Group therapy is a powerful way to explore and shift your attachment patterns, too.
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We understand that life happens, and there may be groups that you cannot attend, either planned in advance or unexpectedly. If you know you may miss more than 1-2 groups, please let us know when you reach out so that we can discuss.
If you miss a group, there aren’t "make-up" groups. You’ll be invited to let the group know as much in advance as possible for potential missed sessions to give a sense of consistency, expectancy, and safety to the group as a whole.
When it comes to payment, since this is a closed, consistent group, the fee holds your place for all 10 sessions, even if you're unable to attend one or more meetings.
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While working with a partner can be valuable, group settings offer something different. Being in a group allows your attachment patterns to emerge in multiple relational contexts, not just one. Because each participant brings a different nervous system, history, and way of relating, different aspects of your patterns often become visible.
This creates more opportunities to notice, practice, and receive support, without placing the work solely on one relationship. Rather than working through attachment in isolation or only with a partner, the experience is held collectively, which many people find both stabilizing and informative.
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For this group, partners do not attend together. The group is designed to support each person in building their own relational awareness and resources, which they can then bring back into their relationship. If there is enough interest, we may offer an additional group that partners can join separately. Heights Couples Therapy also offers several other groups that may also be supportive to them. If they’d like to explore group support, they can contact Heights Couples Therapy for current groups and openings.
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You are very welcome here. This group is inclusive of many relationship structures, including ethical non-monogamy. Attachment patterns are activated in any kind of relationship—and often show up in unique and meaningful ways in non-monogamous relationships. This group focuses on helping you become more aware of how you experience safety, connection, and needs across relationships, which many people find supports their ability to build more intentional and polysecure connections.
About Heights Couples Therapy
This workshop is hosted by Heights Couples Therapy, a specialty group practice in Houston, Texas, supporting individuals, partners, and families navigating intense lives as they build and sustain relationships capable of weathering life’s storms.
We proudly maintain an anti-racist practice that is LGBTQ+-affirming, poly-friendly, and kink-knowledgeable. We believe everyone deserves loving, fulfilling relationships in any configuration or expression that honors their authentic selves.
Looking for support? Connect with our team here.
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