Tuesday, March 17, 2026
7 pm CT | Virtual
When Understanding Isn’t Enough: A Somatic Approach to Staying Anchored During Difficult Relationship Moments
For Partnered Individuals Who Know Their Patterns but Struggle To Stay Present When Emotions Run High
You may already understand attachment on an intellectual level. You know your attachment style, can name your patterns, or have talked about them in circles in therapy.
And yet, when emotions run high in your relationship, that understanding goes out the window.
Your body takes over. Emotions erupt or disappear into numbness. Connecting with—or getting space from—your partner feels more urgent than the rush of a Black Friday sale.
Rather than teaching attachment as a concept to understand or “fix,” this workshop invites you into a live, relational experience where you can notice your attachment patterns in real time.
Whether you’re feeling stuck despite years of self-work, curious about how attachment lives in your body, or wanting a more lived, relational way of understanding your patterns, you’re warmly invited to join us.
This workshop was designed for people like you: insightful adults who deeply love their partner but are tired of the internal mental gymnastics to maintain connection—and ready for a different approach.
You’ll want to attend if you:
Have an understanding of your patterns, but still feel overwhelmed in vulnerable moments
Want to stay present during conflict rather than exploding, shutting down, or over-analyzing afterward
Are open to somatic, experiential, relational work in a small, supportive space
You’ll want to skip if you:
Are in an active crisis or unsafe situation
Are seeking a primarily cognitive or instructional approach to attachment
Do not want to do experiential work in a group setting
Are looking for immediate solutions rather than an experiential introduction
After the Workshop, You’ll Walk Away With:
A lived, concrete experience of attachment
You’ll move beyond abstract ideas and feel how your attachment patterns show up in real time, emotionally, relationally, and in your body.Greater clarity about your true attachment needs
Not just what you “think” you need, but what actually emerges in moments of closeness, distance, or activation.A new perspective on your emotions
Rather than seeing emotions as problems to manage or “fix”, you’ll begin to experience them as meaningful signals pointing toward safety, connection, space, or reassurance.Increased curiosity and hope about change
You’ll feel more open to the idea that attachment patterns are always present and can be worked with through repeated, supported relational experiences.
If the workshop resonates, you’ll be invited to explore whether our in-person, longer-term group, Anchoring The Heart, is a good fit for you.
Meet Your Facilitator: Bojun Hu, PhD
Bojun Hu, PhD, is a somatic therapist and seasoned group facilitator whose background spans personal practice, attachment theory, trauma-informed therapy, and a wide range of somatic and experiential practices, all oriented toward lived experience rather than abstraction.
During her decades of inquiry, Bojun uncovered a fundamental truth:
Your capacity to feel connected, safe, and authentic in relationships directly shapes the quality of your life.
This webinar offers a concentrated introduction to her work, bringing together somatic, experiential, and relational approaches to attachment. Rather than inviting you to “figure out” or “fix” your patterns, it offers a path to building awareness, presence, and choice in how you show up in relationships.
Why This Work Matters
When you and your partner engage in the same painful attachment cycles, it slowly erodes your connection. What once felt like a loving, playful relationship shifts into a space of coldness, conflict, or unspoken resentment.
Simply put, your relationship becomes the most fragile when presence matters the most.
This workshop is not meant to completely shift a relationship dynamic. Instead, it’s designed to open the door to a new way of engaging with attachment patterns—one that moves beyond “fixing” and toward building your capacity and awareness of your true attachment needs and responses.
From there, you can begin to experience more choice in how you identify, name, and engage with your attachment patterns as they arise and how you’d like to deepen your work.
FAQ’s about this webinar
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Yes. You’ll receive the replay after the workshop and have access for two weeks after the workshop. Due to the experiential nature of the workshop, we highly recommend you attend live for maximum benefit.
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No, this is an experiential workshop. The facilitator will guide and hold space, but this does not constitute therapy, diagnosis, or individualized treatment. If you attend and determine you’d benefit from therapy, you’ll receive guidance on how to seek out a therapist who is skilled in attachment-based work.
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Rather than stepping into a rigid training, you’ll be invited into an experiential, playful lab. As opposed to gaining knowledge, the focus will be on relational, experiential practice. This helps you sense whether this type of work feels meaningful and decide whether it’s something you want to deepen.
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Attachment is simply another way of talking about how you experience safety in relationships—what helps you feel cared for, connected, and secure. Since the workshop is experiential, you don't need any prior knowledge about attachment to participate. There is no “right” or “wrong” way.
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You are very welcome here. This framework is inclusive of many relationship structures, including ethical non-monogamy. Attachment patterns are activated in any kind of relationship—and often show up in unique and meaningful ways in non-monogamous relationships. This workshop focused on helping you become more aware of how you experience safety, connection, and needs across relationships, which many people find supports their ability to build more intentional and polysecure connections.
About Heights Couples Therapy
This webinar is hosted by Heights Couples Therapy, a specialty group practice in Houston, Texas, supporting individuals, partners, and families navigating intense lives as they build and sustain relationships capable of weathering life’s storms.
We proudly maintain an anti-racist practice that is LGBTQ+-affirming, poly-friendly, and kink-knowledgeable. We believe everyone deserves loving, fulfilling relationships in any configuration or expression that honors their authentic selves.